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I might not want to be “Wife-material” anymore.

Perhaps my random thoughts and unpopular opinions are wilding. I mean I wouldn’t rule it out but hey hear me out – I don’t think I want to be wife material anymore.

I’ll explain.

Over the years we have seen the phrase “wife material” be used to describe the ideal woman a man would want to marry. Now this right here is my problem. “The ideal woman for a man”

A few months ago I’d have cherished the idea of being wife material. You mean a man would choose to settle down with me? I’m flattered. Now I think of it as “So you really think I’m perfect to manipulate into your little misogynistic world. I’ve reached the age were people start thinking about marriage and consider settling down. Consequently they have started talking about “You have to change this and that for men” and “This is not ideally wife material behavior”.

*Cringes……..*

What is a wife material? A woman who can cook and clean?? A woman that doesnt talk to a lot of men? And maybe she respects and listens to everything her man says. Is it a woman who doesn’t wear certain things? She doesn’t have piercings? Or maybe tattoos? All this sounds like society’s preconceived ideas of suitable women, which is deeply rooted in patriarchy.

The whole conversation revolves around women somehow working on getting better, so they become desirable to men. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with men having a preference, do you bro. I’ll say this again – You’re allowed to have preference! My only problem is with society trying to make everyone act a certain way and bashing women that won’t oblige.

All I can say is it’s a patriarchal concept and I’m yet to learn how to deal with it. Why aren’t we talking about husband material. Do we have relatives sitting down with boys as young as 12 years old to discuss what a good husband is. I am asking all these questions because that’s how young you are when they seed this idea in your mind as a girl.

Unshackle yourself from the chains of patriarchy.

What do you think?

Love and light x

(3) Comments

  1. Yaas girl! I agree with you and I’ve always hated how the emphasis is always put on women as if being “husband material” isn’t a thing.

    1. It’s definitely a thing and we need to start talking about it.
      Thank you for dropping by!

  2. You got the words out of my mouth. Nice read!

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